Trauma becomes accepted over time

and it actually becomes part of our

physical body. (Thus, dis-ease) Since we were never taught, or do not understand how to immediately shift a negative or traumatic experience when it is first recognized (or especially after years of it unknowingly seeping into us), this trauma experience(s) becomes accepted into the very cells of our bodies and becomes physically part of us.

It is connected unknowingly as part of our sub-conscious, which determines our responses to every situation or circumstance in our lives. Thus, we begin identifying with things we would never knowingly accept if we were consciously aware of the harmful consequences to our mental and physical health. 


A choice?

Sounds simple, right? But who has been able to think 'hey, I know I just received the most awful news I could possibly imagine, but I’m going to CHOOSE to just ignore this and find my happy Disney place.”'Or, 'I've been living in hell for so many years I don't even know how to find my way out'. 

NO. Feelings are there now, and will yet be created that we MUST FEEL.


These negative patterns become habits of being that literally get stuck within our bodies, creating new thoughts and habits of being, preventing us from feeling, from dreaming, from hoping. They prevent us from being the person we always imagined we would be. 

I think we all grow up with a certain thought or two of what we want or do not want out of life or at least an idea of the direction we think our life will go.

Many of us find ourselves in life down the road so to speak with pretty much what we imagined. But others like myself, find life has given us so many twists and turns that we find we have fallen off many cliffs and into a place completely unrecognizably broken that we can’t even begin to remember what we ever thought our lives might bring, much less remember who we ever were when we had those ideas in the first place.

Then a picture, song or person reminds us of the person we remember deep in the echoes of our hearts; playing, daydreaming, free, and filled with anticipation and excitement about the possibilities of life and truly, honestly, we secretly know we are still that person, down deep hidden somewhere.

We find ourselves either waiting for that ‘other side’ of us to come back, to be able to not only remember our hopes and dreams, but to more openly enjoy the moments of our life and loved ones, or we find we have completely forgotten ourselves and have fallen into some dark, deep hole where we cannot see any light whatsoever. 


If you’re reading this, I believe you have been guided here.


I understand.


Please believe me there IS hope.

Not just hope of being happy someday, somehow, but hope of resonating with JOY and WHOLENESS in a way that it becomes you… part of your very soul, integrated into your mind AND body.

It is a process of becoming. And yes, it takes time. More often than not, it is imperceptible 'drops' in the right direction, not even steps. But just like it took time to get us to where we are now, far away from feelings of joy, it takes time to get back to certain WHOLENESS and JOY.  But just being on that path is a far better experience than the continued path of certain despair and who knows what!!! 

When unfavorable things —or even catastrophic things that happened in the past or will yet happen in the future, together we can find realistic tools we can use which will help us not only get through the trouble, or the moment (or the decades. ;-), but keep our perspective grounded, even consistently rooted in JOY and WHOLENESS.